I totally understand that after a long day at work your neck and back can feel tense, your brain feels like mush and the last thing you want to do is force yourself to go out.
When you have this feeling day after day or week after week, it’s easy to criticize yourself for not doing more to invest in relationships. “What’s my problem?” you think. “Why don’t I have the time and energy to spend more time with people?”
But fortunately, there’s a better way…
As the research in the New York Times’ article “Go Easy on Yourself” explains, self compassion actually leads to better habit change than self criticism. That’s why you can increase your capacity for relationships by doing more of what you feel like doing versus what you think you “should” do.
By taking this more compassionate approach toward yourself, you’ll have the opportunity to do more of what you enjoy and attract the kind of people who love participating in these activities with you. Also, making dates an intentional part of your weekly planning decreases the chance that you won’t go out because you’re too tired to make a decision at the end of the day.
You can increase your dating life by doing a little more to love yourself in 2012.
To your brilliance!
Elizabeth Grace Saunders is the founder and CEO of Real Life E® a time coaching and training company that empowers individuals who feel guilty, overwhelmed and frustrated to feel peaceful, confident and accomplished through an exclusive Schedule MakeoverTM process. Real Life E® also increases employee productivity, satisfaction and work/life balance through custom training programs.
Elizabeth has appeared in Inc magazine, The Chicago Tribune, and on NBC. She was selected as one of the Top 25 Amazing Women of 2010 by Stiletto Woman and as a member of the Young Entrepreneurs Council featured in The New York Times, Forbes, Mashable, and many other media outlets.
Elizabeth’s time coaching clients have the opportunity to go through her exclusive Schedule MakeoverTM life transformation process through phone coaching and custom action guides or in-person training.